Disciplining at Home When Discipline Issues Arise at School – How to Be Supportive

No one wants their child to be in trouble at school. It would be wonderful if everyone always got along and agreed about everything in regards to a child’s schooling. But we don’t live in a perfect world. Children will get in trouble at school, whether it is their fault or someone else’s, whether fairly or unfairly. It is up to us as parents to dig deeper and find out what really happened, so that we can support fair discipline of our children when they are at school.

Find Out the Truth

When your child has gotten into trouble with his (or her) authorities at school, it can be difficult to find out the full truth. No child enjoys getting into trouble, and if he knows he can get his parents to come to his defense each and every time, he will keep on making it work for him.

We must be careful, though, not to always assume that our children are in the wrong. There are times when a teacher punishes unfairly, or another child is to blame and avoids their responsibility in the situation. Be sure that you do not automatically lean to one side at all times, and be careful to gather all necessary information before deciding what to believe.

Get in Touch with the Necessary Contact

When your child has a discipline issue at school, know who to get in touch with. If there are ongoing issues, it is helpful to have one person you can speak with regularly regarding your child’s situation. Get to know the person well and be in contact with them as often as necessary. You will avoid much frustration if you are speaking with one person regularly as opposed to explaining your story over and over to multiple people.

Work Together for Your Child

If your child is truly having issues that need to be dealt with at school, work together with his teacher and other key individuals. If discipline is necessary at school, then it is in your best interest to support their discipline while at home. In order for your child to thrive, discipline should be consistent between all caregivers – including school staff and parents.

Speak to Professionals

Most schools have staff who are trained in child development. If you need any ideas on effective discipline for your child, talk to someone there who can help. Ask if your school has such resources and you may be able to utilize them.

Believe Your Child

If your child tells you they are being treated harshly or inappropriately, listen to them. Take action if your child is being bullied by a teacher or another child. Although children may sometimes fabricate stories for sympathy, too many parents have ignored their child’s cries for help until it was too late. Never ignore your child when they need help.

Whether they are in the right or the wrong, they deserve to have a parent who listens and comes to their aid each and every time there is an issue. Be involved and know your child and the situations he is facing. Don’t be afraid to make necessary calls and take further action if needed.

Discipline issues at school are never easy to deal with, but they are a part of parenting. Know your role in supporting your child in any situation they may find themselves in. Be the parent who is an advocate for your child, and you will make his transition through school a more positive experience.

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